I was twenty-eight years old when my father died. On the surface, you’d think that as an adult I was past the time that I needed his guidance. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I was a relatively new husband, not yet a father, at the beginning of a career, and still growing spiritually. All of this at just twenty-eight years old. I now know how profitable it would have been to have had a man in my life who had walked the path I was on before me. I now understand that I needed someone who was willing to be transparent and honest about the pitfalls they’d experienced. [Read more…] about Men Mentoring Men Is Important
Everybody’s Talking About Wholeness But I Can’t Seem To Get There
Whole, wholeness, and complete are all words that we hear to describe a person that is sound in all aspects of life. Christians refer to being complete in mind, body, and spirit. There are lots of people, including Christians, who would have to say that being complete or whole sounds good, but is a hard thing to achieve. This leads me to ask some questions and seek the answers. What does it mean for us to be whole? How did we become so divided? What is the pathway back to wholeness or unity?
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Why Your Reality Looks Different From Your Vision
“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, what for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.” ~ Habakkuk 2:2-3
Habakkuk 2:2-3, we’ve all read it, recited it, or heard it used in a message. These verses are often used to encourage us to have, or get, a vision and trust that our vision will come to pass. A problem with this process is that our flawed interpretation of these two verses can be a major reason that the accomplished goal doesn’t look the way we painted it in our minds. [Read more…] about Why Your Reality Looks Different From Your Vision
Why Working As Hard As You Can Still Won’t Be Enough
I’m fifty years old, and it took me some time to figure it out. I’d fallen for a lie. The lie was subtle, and sounded plausible, but in the end it was a lie. The lie kept me spinning my wheels, and it continued to make promises that it couldn’t deliver. I kept pressing further into the lie because as I looked around me I saw that I wasn’t alone. Other people were running just as hard behind the lie as I was. [Read more…] about Why Working As Hard As You Can Still Won’t Be Enough
3 Kinds of People Who Are Better Off Staying Single
Today is my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary! I guess you could say that I’ve been married for a good while. I’ve also been performing wedding ceremonies, premarital and marriage counseling for a while. In my own marriage, and the marriages of others, I’ve witnessed quite a bit. So much, in fact, that I’ve come to believe that there are some people who should stay single and never get married. Here’s the short list.
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Things I’ve Learned in Twenty-Five Years of Marriage – Part 12
If someone told you that they had a perfect marriage you’d probably be a bit suspicious. You might assume that they must be newlyweds. Or maybe you smile as you think “Clearly they’ve not been married long enough to know better.” [Read more…] about Things I’ve Learned in Twenty-Five Years of Marriage – Part 12