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After the rocky period at the start of our marriage, we were introduced to a small book that changed everything for us. Sounds like hyperbole I know, but it was an important read. We read a book on communication. [Read more…] about Things I’ve Learned in Twenty-Five Years of Marriage – Part 4
Commitment is a charged word for married folk. It is a word that makes some fearful, while others take it too lightly. At the beginning of our marriage, my wife and I would have fallen into the latter category. We took it too lightly, but I don’t believe we did it purposely. We just had no real idea what commitment in marriage meant, or what we were being asked to commit to as a couple. [Read more…] about Things I’ve Learned in Twenty-Five Years of Marriage – Part 3
One of the first things that I learned when I got married was just how selfish both my wife and I were. Selfishness isn’t a trait that most people would attribute to themselves, but it is one that quickly makes itself evident. One of the things that my wife and I now say to one another, regarding selfishness, is “self-preservation is the first law of man.” We are hardwired to look out for ourselves first. This dialed-in self-preservation does, however, become an issue in marriage. [Read more…] about Things I’ve Learned in Twenty-Five Years of Marriage – Part 2
It is difficult to believe that October will mark my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. I am married to a wonderful woman, who has been my best friend since soon after we met nearly thirty years ago. I can still remember the feeling I had when I asked her to marry me and she said yes. I can remember how nervous I was when I spoke to her mother (her father died when she was a teen) about wanting to marry her. I vividly remember the excited nervousness I had when she walked down the aisle of the church toward me. I remember our honeymoon in Cancun, closing on our first house (a major fixer-upper), the birth of our two children, family vacations, fighting and fussing, highs and lows (we’ve had a good share of both). After a quarter of a century married (I just wanted to say that) I wouldn’t trade any of it for any amount of money. [Read more…] about Things I’ve Learned in Twenty-Five Years of Marriage – Part 1