It is inevitable that your spouse will disappoint, offend, or hurt you with their actions or words. At that moment, even knowing the power of grace, it may feel difficult to to forgive. Let me assure you that forgiveness is not only necessary for a healthy marriage, it is absolutely achievable.
It is so easy to say, “extend grace to your spouse,” but it can be a difficult thing to do until we understand the power of grace in our own lives. Grace, even in marriage, is a hard thing to share with someone else if you don’t know what it is.
I am often astonished at the level of detail of my wife’s memory. She can recall the colors, sounds, and words of events that occurred decades ago. There are many things that I can recall with the same level of detail, but compared to my wife I have no memory at all. There have been, over the years of our marriage, many events worth remembering. There are some we would just as soon forget.
There have been, absolutely, without doubt or question, times in our marriage when we’ve had arguments. You can call them arguments, disagreements, heated fellowship, or whatever, there have been times when my wife and I haven’t seen eye to eye on a matter.