I am often astonished at the level of detail of my wife’s memory. She can recall the colors, sounds, and words of events that occurred decades ago. There are many things that I can recall with the same level of detail, but compared to my wife I have no memory at all. There have been, over the years of our marriage, many events worth remembering. There are some we would just as soon forget.
There have been, absolutely, without doubt or question, times in our marriage when we’ve had arguments. You can call them arguments, disagreements, heated fellowship, or whatever, there have been times when my wife and I haven’t seen eye to eye on a matter.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” ~ 1 Corinthians 13:1-8
Ahhh, 1 Corinthians 13! The eternal wedding passage. I’m pretty sure that this passage was read at our wedding twenty-five years ago. And I’ve heard the passage read at countless weddings since then. The reaction is always the same. Heads nod. People say “amen” in assent. Everyone listens with hopeful expectation that the blissful couple will enjoy the truth of these verses.
“His disciples said, ‘Ah, now you are speaking plainly and not using figurative speech!’” ~ John 16:29
When Doris and I first got married, we thought the communication in our relationship was pretty good. We had dated for years, and like many young couples in love, we had spent countless hours talking to one another. Yes, we even did the falling asleep on the telephone thing! Countless conversations about myriad things. Being good communicators once we were married would be a snap, or so we thought.