Today is my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary! I guess you could say that I’ve been married for a good while. I’ve also been performing wedding ceremonies, premarital and marriage counseling for a while. In my own marriage, and the marriages of others, I’ve witnessed quite a bit. So much, in fact, that I’ve come to believe that there are some people who should stay single and never get married. Here’s the short list.
If someone told you that they had a perfect marriage you’d probably be a bit suspicious. You might assume that they must be newlyweds. Or maybe you smile as you think “Clearly they’ve not been married long enough to know better.”
It is inevitable that your spouse will disappoint, offend, or hurt you with their actions or words. At that moment, even knowing the power of grace, it may feel difficult to to forgive. Let me assure you that forgiveness is not only necessary for a healthy marriage, it is absolutely achievable.
It is so easy to say, “extend grace to your spouse,” but it can be a difficult thing to do until we understand the power of grace in our own lives. Grace, even in marriage, is a hard thing to share with someone else if you don’t know what it is.